Hey Readers, i know it's been a while since i've written and i'm sorry. I keep saying I'm going to and then something else comes up. I'm still learning to be a good wife. I'm not going to lie to you guys, marriage is not an easy thing (neither is a relationship, but I say marriage because that's where I am in my life). It take takes blood sweat and tears ( and a little elbow grease to top it all off lol ). Sometimes it's amazing and it's the best thing ever, and sometimes it hurts like hell, but you gotta take the good with the bad.
LADIES- i'm learning that guys don't very willingly tell you if they are hurting or upset. It comes out as anger or that they don't care. My advice would be to give them a little time to let them be. Let them watch football, or car shows or something they like on tv. Let them have a beer, or something they like. Let them be moody for a little, but go to them after a while. Ask them if they are okay..ask them if they want to talk.If they don't want to talk, then let them be. But just remember, eventually they will need to talk and you MUST be there. Listen, don't comment or talk about your day. Don't give them your input. Just LISTEN, and when they ask you for you opinion, tell them kindly what you you think. It makes you not go crazy wondering what is on their mind, if they are mad at you, or if something is wrong. Chances are it's NOT you. It saves you from fighting too. And always remember, you do have friends. If you feel you are going to go crazy not knowing-call, text, aim, fb chat, email (or in my case go into the other room) and talk to them. If you have a good friend, who knows you well, you will be fine.
GUYS - It's the little things in life that make a girl happy. Remembering to kiss them when you get home from work, buying them a flower for no reason, telling your special lady that she is beautiful (i don't give two shits if you think she should just know - YOU NEED TO SAY IT), doing something you know she likes, even though you may not, opening a door for her, saying thank you when she does something for you (even if she does it every day), letting her know you appreciate her, letting her vent to you when she has had a bad day and not blowing her off sayng to just get over it (trust me, it makes us feel worse). There's a million other things that I could say , but i can't give you guys everything, that wouldn't be fair.
So i know that this post has been a lot of advice (and yes maybe there are hints in there for some people) and i'm sorry, but today i felt that's what needed to be said. Anyway, I'll let everyone go for now. I'll be posting a video of me and Toni later tonight or tomorrow before i leave for my in-laws camp.I'll be posting everyday from now on, and i promise it wont all be sad or lectures. :) (see a smiley face!)
As Always, Keep Reading, I'll Keep Writng
<3 - Liz
